Hey Triple B, your resident newlywed L’Oreal is back with her third Triple B post. Like many of you she’s trying to juggle her relationship as a newlywed, manage a flourishing career, maintain a social life and more. (Whew!) Here’s how she’s balancing it all (or not)… [Read more…]
As a kid, every Wednesday daddy and I had a tradition. We listened to Frank Sinatra and sipped cherry slurpies while cruising down the highway. Windows down and not a care in the world. My father has and will forever be my first love. The role my father played in my life helped to shape me as a wife. [Read more…]
I was tempted to make this essay about how my father stressed the importance of family. I’m grateful for it and hope to pass similar family values to my children should I become a mother. Then I considered making the post about how culturally aware I am as a result of my father. The art, literature and even music he exposed me to at an early age was key in making me the woman I am today. I thought about focusing this piece on the way my father treated my mother and the message it sent to me. I knew early on that romantic love did not mean physical or verbal abuse and I have my father to thank for that.
But I decided against them all. Why?
Last month’s Mother’s Day Special Series received such positive response that I decided to show love to the other parent — FATHERS. I chose to allow women to show their appreciation for, in most cases, the first man they loved. This month, Marriage Matters Mondays will be replaced with a Cousin Mars Special Series: How Daddy Helped Me to Be A Better Wife. Our first participant and the BlackBridalBliss.com editorial assistant Janee D. Weather (aka Venus) currently resides in New York and has yet to marry. [Read more…]
Did you forget that Marriage Matters Mondays has been replaced with a Cousin Mars special series: I Love My Wife Even More, Because of the Mother She Is during May? Of course you didn’t. Our third husband to participate, Donald (currently residing in TX) is a proud father of two and has been married for 10 years. I’m sure you’ll enjoy what he shared below. [Read more…]
I’m baac-aack! Hey Triple B, L’Oreal here with my second Triple B post. What’s in a new last name?
Kim Kardashian West.
Kandi Burruss Tucker.
Part II in our special series: I Love My Wife Even More, Because of the Mother She Is was penned by Richard who currently resides in Florida. Richard, who has known his wife for 10 years and has been married for six, opens up on how they’ve grown individually and collectively over the past decade. Be sure to comment on his essay shared below. [Read more…]
In honor of all of the wonderful mothers that follow Triple B, I want to allow husbands to show their appreciation for these women. This month, Marriage Matters Mondays will be replaced with a Cousin Mars special series: I Love My Wife Even More, Because of the Mother She Is. Our first husband to participate, Steve (currently residing in PA) has been married for 15 years. I’m sure you’ll enjoy what he shared below.
Triple B has a treat for you! BlackBridalBliss.com is launching a brand new “column” called, The Newlywed Chronicles! That’s right…And last week’s Tie the Knot Tuesday bride L’Oreal Thompson Payton will be kicking off this exciting monthly feature. Read up and be sure to show her some love in the comments. (All feedback — good, bad or indifferent is welcomed as long as it is respectful.) Enjoy! [Read more…]
Please enjoy the below essay from a new contributor to BlackBridalBliss.com — Verdel A. Jones. Verdel is an educator in Long Island, New York and has been married to her husband Jeremiah (pictured above) for 26 years and counting. Be sure to show her some Triple B love in the comments after reading! [Read more…]
Bridal blogs tend to dish out warm and fuzzy wedding and newlywed advice as though everyone saying “I Do” has never been married and/or doesn’t already have children (whether together or from a previous relationship). Admittedly, even Triple B was guilty of this. Yet when many of us get engaged, we’re already mothers and/or are preparing to wed someone who is a parent. As expected this can get messy — whether the children involved are toddlers, teens or any age in between. We typically witness the messiest of these situations glorified in media — you know, the evil stepmother and the bitter “baby mama” but the below excerpt of a letter written by a mother and ex-wife to her daughter’s new stepmom proves it doesn’t have to be. [Read more…]
Marriage is a contract to some people, a commitment to others and most unfortunately, slavery to a few. For me, it’s two people who love each other coming together for the advancement of their common goals. My wife and I love each other and our common goals are [Read more…]
Working with Black Bridal Bliss has afforded me the opportunity to interview scores of brides-to-be and women that have already jumped the broom. Two questions I often ask these individuals are: 1) What does marriage mean to you? and 2) What is/was your biggest fear entering marriage? The answers have been so entertaining and/or awe inspiring. Here’s part three in this enlightening feature. I invite you to revisit the first and second essays as well. You’re welcome. [Read more…]
Solely because I have an issue doing things the way people expect me to, last week I kicked off our What Marriage Means to Me Series with a wonderful unmarried woman instead of one who is presently a Mrs. This week is a bit different. You have another opportunity to peek into the mind of an awesome individual, however this one checks a different box on forms asking about marital status. Meet Kia from New Jersey as she shares her views on marriage and motherhood. [Read more…]
I approach this subject not as a presently married woman but as a child of a married couple. I grew up in a two-parent household as the youngest of four children. Although my parents weren’t affectionate toward each other by the time I became aware of such things, I witnessed two adults joined in matrimony, committed to raising their children to the best of their ability. [Read more…]
My cousin and Triple B supporter Nik recently forwarded an article to me from Huffington Post. I was so enlightened by it that I had to share. Since we’re in the midst of engagement season, I felt it was especially poignant. Get ready to soak up some wisdom! [Read more…]
Nicole Brewer-Gurganious is a friend of Triple B. She’s a former boss from my days at ESSENCE magazine (she was then fashion director, I was fashion and beauty research editor). A few years later I started covering real weddings for Essence.com and featured Nicole’s August 2009 nuptials to hubby Damien. The vibrant couple had been contestants on Biggest Loser and both shed an impressive amount of weight while making significant lifestyle changes. It was a delight to showcase Nicole’s big day on Essence.com and Nicole was equally as excited to share her love story. Nicole has confessed, “He was made especially for me” when asked about her marriage. Fast forward to the launch of BlackBridalBliss.com in 2010 — Nicole was an ambassador for David’s Bridal and lent her style expertise to Triple B when the blog was just a month old. She cheerfully expressed how proud she was of me and the leap of faith I took to start this blog. Her advice on how brides of any shape or size can find a fashionable gown is still relevant. Two years ago, Nicole and Damien became the proud parents of a beautiful daughter named Giselle who was the light of both of their lives.
Now Nicole is a widow. [Read more…]
Kyle Douglas, the author of today’s Marriage Matters personal essay, and I have known each other for over 25 years. As always, none of us know what happens in any marriage behind closed doors, but we can certainly learn from and be inspired by the ones that are seemingly healthy, happy and honest about how they attempt to stay that way. I’m proud of the husband and father Kyle appears to have become. I remember when this dude sported a high top fade! Check out his take on what it really means to work at a marriage.
This Husband’s Work by Kyle Douglas
As a child, it is not uncommon for someone to ask the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Back then I gave answers like, “A pilot, a professional football player, and even an electrician.” This mentality stayed with me ’til about my late teens and then something changed. I can’t tell you exactly what triggered it but those things were no longer important. My goal in life was to become a good if not great family man. [Read more…]
No, this couple isn’t Black. Yet the wisdom shared in the below video crosses racial barriers. It needed to be shared. They’re still together and seem to personify the mantra, “Live.Love.Laugh.”
Watch. Digest. Comment. [Read more…]