Raised by married parents, a college graduate, pursuing a master’s degree and the owner of a pretty smile. Doesn’t that make me the perfect package? My relationship reality didn’t become clear until I began to scroll through my Insta (gram) timeline and notice many of my female classmates had either been recently married or engaged. For a moment I laughed at those girls. My first thought was, “Y’all are crazy!” Did your mother not teach you as mine did; to “Do You!” before settling down? In other words: Travel, party, live alone, and kiss a few frogs? [Read more...]
This week will mark the 30th anniversary of The Cosby Show! [Read more...]
I found the above message on Instagram a couple weeks back and thought it was profound. So much so that I needed to share. It is easy (too easy) to get caught up in the rings, the gown, the flowers, the reception music, and the 18,000 other things that even the most focused engaged couple can forget the true point of it all.
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I recently read an article over on Black & Married with Kids written by Franchesca Warren titled, Can a Single Woman Do Too Much Before Marriage?. The piece was penned two years ago but the topics it addresses are still very relevant today. Warren explained that she became a homeowner at 23 — among having various other admirable accomplishments — and was happy to have married a man who viewed her ambition as a good thing. Yet, she points out how others maintain mantras like, “A woman should wait to purchase “big” things (dream car, house, etc.) until she’s married. If they don’t wait, then it’s intimidating to a potential mate.” [Read more...]
We all remember BET’s hit reality show The Family Crews. Terry and Rebecca Crews welcomed us in their L.A. home, making us all feel like family. But what happened when the cameras stopped rolling? Triple B chatted with Mrs. Rebecca Crews about getting and staying married. Rebecca, who is refreshingly down to Earth, is clear that her husband did not become the man that he is overnight but in practicing commitment, compassion, and communication they held on. Terry and Rebecca are the proud parents of five children and celebrated 25 years of marriage on July 29, 2014. This is their story… [Read more...]
Hola! Tie the Knot Tuesday and Not Quite Tie the Knot Tuesday will return soon, folks. I know, I know — but trust that Triple B is working on some good stuff in the meantime and it includes featuring a bunch of great love stories, weddings, videos and engagement pictures. Today however, we’re switching things up a bit. [Read more...]
“Man can plan but God can hinder.”
Growing up, I listened to my North Carolina-born mom and grandmother recite the above sentence countless times and it typically left me perplexed. Now as a married, 30-something year-old woman I get it. In fact, my new marriage and now postponed honeymoon are prime examples of this saying.
Before I get into the who, what and why of my honeymoon being postponed, let me explain a few things: I work in an industry where frontin’ is embraced. I thought long and hard about whether or not I wanted to post this because I was nervous about oversharing and exposing too much of me and the hubby’s business to the world wide web. But upon careful consideration, I concluded (after running it by him) that I should because if I experienced it, someone else probably has, too. So here goes… [Read more...]
Triple B family member Mondella Jones of MJLA Media alerted me of the below essay on weddings and marriage from award-winning writer Benilde Little because she thought it would make a great Marriage Matters post. And she was right. Benilde, a former ESSENCE magazine editor who is the author of best-selling books like Good Hair, has been married for more than two decades. She had the type of nuptials I’m sure many women dream about — complete with a coveted New York Times Style mention. However her piece on the ups and downs most couples experience post- “I Do“ is refreshingly honest and for me as a newlywed, it is also comforting. Happy reading! [Read more...]