I’ve heard the term “Birds of a feather flock together” throughout my childhood. I felt as though my mother and most influential high school teacher repeated these words to me too often. It frustrated me. By the way, I continued hearing this through college and even in the work place. When I got engaged, I started reminding myself of this all too familiar phrase. [Read more...]
“My entire home is constructed and decorated exactly the way I want it to be!” said no one ever. The truth is whether you’re a penny pitching newlywed or a seasoned hitched guy or gal with change to spare, there will always be a home improvement project or a desired piece of furniture on your wish list. It took me a minute to grasp this but now I do and I think Mr. TK does, too. Still, combining my 30+ years of life with his is daunting at times. [Read more...]
Although my first wedding anniversary is more than half a year away, I have already learned several lessons about marriage. [Read more...]
Over the weekend, I ran across a good read in the form of a Q&A interview over on ESSENCE.com. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah Jackson chatted with Hollywood power couple Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil (Mara is the mastermind behind hit television shows Girlfriends and Being Mary Jane while Salim is the director of The Game.) about how the married couple makes their love work. As with any relationship “advice” or commentary, it is important for all of us to our discernment. I truly feel every relationship has it’s own DNA yet there is something validating about seeing and hearing from people that look like you in [seemingly] healthy and happy marriages. Check out this interview snippet and then leave a comment with your thoughts. [Read more...]
I have no desire to be a relationship expert of any kind. The only relationship I want to be an expert on is my own. (Kudos to those true professionals who have studied their butts off to help the rest of us navigate our love lives.) However this is on my heart and mind so I wanted to share. I’ve only been married a few months but one thing I’ve already learned is it requires way too much time and energy to worry what others think of your union. In the words of this quite profound toddler, after you say “I Do”, it is even more important to worry about yourself. [Read more...]
Hollywood is known for many things: cheesy celebrity home tours, beautiful palm trees, gigantic movie studios and microwave marriages. So when Triple B was approached to feature husband-wife duo, Kam and Ricky Horne, Jr. for Marriage Matters, a hefty dose of skepticism arose. Kam knows the entertainment biz well. The stunning Los Angeles native began modeling and acting at the tender age of 13. The mother of three was a regular on the Tia & Tamera Show which aired on the E! Style Network, Bravo and Oxygen. Hubby Ricky is a writer/director/producer who has worked with industry notables like Kim Fields and Lindsay Lohan. The Hornes were refreshingly down to earth and candid about their ups and downs since saying “I Do” — dishing on everything from blending families, raising a special needs child and planning a wedding without supportive parents. Meet the Hornes: [Read more...]
I needed a provocative title in order to pique your interest. In a moment you’ll understand why I chose it. This post may be my most personal Final Fridays with Cousin Mars post to date. In fact, it may actually break a few of the privacy rules I set when I first agreed to contribute to The Ultimate Online Destination for Black Brides. I have received such positive reviews, via emails and post comments, over the past sixteen months. At the risk of sounding extremely corny, I feel as though the Black Bridal Bliss audience deserves a more open Cousin Mars.
On Thursday, December 12th, 2013 BlackBridalBliss.com hosted its very first Cupcakes, Cocktails & Conversation event at La Femme Suite in Harlem, NY. La Femme Suite, located on Adam Clayton Powell Boulevard, is a Pole Fitness studio that also offers several spa services. The development of Cupcakes, Cocktails & Conversation began when Bridgette and I discussed having an open, informative, and entertaining forum to discuss our relationships. I know locker room talk and how crass and braggadocious those conversations can be. My platonic relationships have afforded me many opportunities to witness and participate in their version of locker room talk. These are actually the same reasons that caused me to pitch the idea of bringing Cousin Mars to Triple B. Now that I’ve drank the Triple B Kool-Aid and want to bring bliss to everyone, I thought it would be beneficial to panel members (gentlemen) and guests (ladies and gentlemen) to openly discuss the unicorns and pink elephants – Cupcakes, Cocktails & Conversation was born. [Read more...]
I’m officially back from my minimoon and the bridal dust is beginning to settle. There are certainly still tasks to complete — thank you cards, anyone? — but Mr. TK and I have had an opportunity to look back on our weddings (Yes, there were two!) and reflect. We’ve basically come to this conclusion: We worked dang hard together to pull off The Royall Union and we’re proud of our teamwork, we have so much more hard work to put in as we build for our future, we really dig each other (LOL!) and we’re blessed beyond measure. Although the road ahead of us seems daunting at times, we’re looking forward to getting familiar with the unfamiliar together. Which leads me to what are possibly my favorite wedding gifts of all. These gifts are from my 10 and 12 year-old nieces who I’m pictured with above.