Raised by married parents, a college graduate, pursuing a master’s degree and the owner of a pretty smile. Doesn’t that make me the perfect package? My relationship reality didn’t become clear until I began to scroll through my Insta (gram) timeline and notice many of my female classmates had either been recently married or engaged. For a moment I laughed at those girls. My first thought was, “Y’all are crazy!” Did your mother not teach you as mine did; to “Do You!” before settling down? In other words: Travel, party, live alone, and kiss a few frogs? [Read more...]
Couple: Shannon and Stuart
Wedding Date: July 26, 2013
Wedding and Reception Location: Glen Island Harbour Club, New Rochelle, NY
Wedding Theme: Simple Elegance
I found the above message on Instagram a couple weeks back and thought it was profound. So much so that I needed to share. It is easy (too easy) to get caught up in the rings, the gown, the flowers, the reception music, and the 18,000 other things that even the most focused engaged couple can forget the true point of it all.
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We all remember BET’s hit reality show The Family Crews. Terry and Rebecca Crews welcomed us in their L.A. home, making us all feel like family. But what happened when the cameras stopped rolling? Triple B chatted with Mrs. Rebecca Crews about getting and staying married. Rebecca, who is refreshingly down to Earth, is clear that her husband did not become the man that he is overnight but in practicing commitment, compassion, and communication they held on. Terry and Rebecca are the proud parents of five children and celebrated 25 years of marriage on July 29, 2014. This is their story… [Read more...]
Hola! Tie the Knot Tuesday and Not Quite Tie the Knot Tuesday will return soon, folks. I know, I know — but trust that Triple B is working on some good stuff in the meantime and it includes featuring a bunch of great love stories, weddings, videos and engagement pictures. Today however, we’re switching things up a bit. [Read more...]
Your honey popped the question so you’re ready to start planning your wedding. Sure you understand the marriage is bigger than the wedding — Duh! You love your future spouse and have no doubts that he (or she) is who you want to say “I Do” to during that ceremony you have already begun meticulously planning.
After the bridal dust has settled and the honeymoon is (literally) over, the marriage begins. Even couples who live together before jumping the broom are likely to experience “growing pains” after their nuptials. Asking yourself the below questions then discussing your honest answers to those questions with your partner while still engaged is wise and will help you gain a better sense of self. [Read more...]
Nearlyweds if you’re in the midst of wedding planning, chances are you are neck-deep in scheduling lots of tastings, venue walk-throughs and dozens of other vendor appointments. Juggling it all along with your already hectic life (because I don’t know many Black women who aren’t pulled into a multitude of directions) can begin to seem more like work than play. But I strongly urge you not to stay in that place and here’s why. [Read more...]
Hollywood is known for many things: cheesy celebrity home tours, beautiful palm trees, gigantic movie studios and microwave marriages. So when Triple B was approached to feature husband-wife duo, Kam and Ricky Horne, Jr. for Marriage Matters, a hefty dose of skepticism arose. Kam knows the entertainment biz well. The stunning Los Angeles native began modeling and acting at the tender age of 13. The mother of three was a regular on the Tia & Tamera Show which aired on the E! Style Network, Bravo and Oxygen. Hubby Ricky is a writer/director/producer who has worked with industry notables like Kim Fields and Lindsay Lohan. The Hornes were refreshingly down to earth and candid about their ups and downs since saying “I Do” — dishing on everything from blending families, raising a special needs child and planning a wedding without supportive parents. Meet the Hornes: [Read more...]
I needed a provocative title in order to pique your interest. In a moment you’ll understand why I chose it. This post may be my most personal Final Fridays with Cousin Mars post to date. In fact, it may actually break a few of the privacy rules I set when I first agreed to contribute to The Ultimate Online Destination for Black Brides. I have received such positive reviews, via emails and post comments, over the past sixteen months. At the risk of sounding extremely corny, I feel as though the Black Bridal Bliss audience deserves a more open Cousin Mars.
I have interviewed over 100 brides and dozens of wedding planners and other bridal industry experts in my career. I’ve been tapped by media outlets like ESSENCE, The Huffington Post and UPTOWN for my bridal expertise. I have enough bridal magazines and wedding books in my home to drive Mr. TK nuts. (I’m working on the pack rat tendencies, babe!) Still, none of this made me totally prepared for the emotional roller coaster I rode for my own wedding. Here are the top five things I learned while taking that ride and how you can attempt to buckle up for them, too: [Read more...]
Three toasts on a night full of joyous emotion replay in my head days after my wedding ceremony. In a past post I discussed the pressure and responsibility of delivering the Best Man toast, well each of the toasts given in my honor delivered in a big way. At the time that I wrote the last post regarding the highly anticipated speech, I didn’t think about the groom’s reaction. Well, I now know what my reaction was. Below I share my experience as the man of the hour. [Read more...]
Well folks, the deed was done. On Saturday, October 19, 2013, I jumped the broom with my best friend in front of roughly 115 loved ones. (We actually wed a month prior in a much smaller ceremony — I promise to elaborate more on that later.) In a word, last weekend was bliss.
Mr. TK and I are still sleepwalking and aren’t scheduled to return to our normal (whatever that means) schedules until next week. Still, I wanted to give you all a glimpse into our nuptials to hold you over until the official Tie the Knot Tuesday feature next month. Below is hand’s down one of my favorite moments from the big day: [Read more...]
The great news: I made it to Charlotte! Hello, Bojangles and hearing folks say “reckon” regularly. I’m about as Southern as a New York gal can be so it isn’t too much of a surprise to most of my friends that I wanted to jump the broom in North Carolina. Time is flying by. Here’s what I have on the itinerary for today:
Last night I received unfortunate news regarding a loved one. The news wasn’t life-threatening and might help said person in the long run but I spent a good portion of my evening consumed with it instead of finishing this list. I still don’t have escort cards, I didn’t go to snapfish.com to get signs printed and I missed the Martha Stewart Weddings Fiesta. On a brighter side, I got my nails and eyelashes done yesterday — WOO HOO. Check this Instagram nail video for a fun play by play. Here’s what I’m hoping to accomplish today: [Read more...]
Today’s gonna be a doozy! I’ve been up since 5ish this morning sending emails and making lists. There’s still more lists to write, too. (Mr. TK thinks I make too many lists but my mother has warned him I inherited that from my dad. “She got it honest,” she told him. They now have lots of conversations about me in front of me; they’re too funny.) Here’s what is on my list for today: [Read more...]
Yesterday was productive. While I didn’t complete all the tasks on my to-do list, I finished most of them and even did a few important things that weren’t on the list. (Ahem, my wedding band was finally selected and purchased — WOO HOO!) I realized that not only was my friend Lisa’s advice to post this wedding countdown important for the Triple B audience but it will also hold me accountable. (By the way if you’re ever in NYC and need a mani or pedi, check Lisa out at The Nail Suite by Lisa Logan. Yes that was definitely a shameless plug.) Here’s what I hope to accomplish today and tomorrow: [Read more...]
Happy Friday! Guess what? I’m scheduled to jump the broom a week from tomorrow. That’s right! One. Week. From. Tomorrow. Although I’ve been blogging on Triple B for Road to Mrs. periodically, I have managed to remain sorta tight-lipped about the details of my wedding. (When it is all said and done there will actually be two weddings but more on that later.) My good friend Lisa pointed out my covertness the other night over calamari and catfish tenders. Our convo went something like this:
Lisa: Bridge, people will relate to you more on BBB if you shared the details of your day-to-day.
Me: Yeah, but you know I’m kinda private and so is Mr. TK. Plus, I have been blogging about it in Road to Mrs.
Lisa: (rolling her eyes) That’s not enough. You launched a bridal blog and you’re getting married. You’ve shared so many details about other brides yet you’re keeping all the good stuff about yourself to yourself. That could turn people off.
Lisa: How about a countdown! That’s fun and exciting and you can be honest about all the ish you still have to do. Be vulnerable like you were when you first announced you were engaged. People will relate to that.
And so here it is, folks. The first day of my 1 week wedding day countdown. I even plan to blog tomorrow. (Not Sunday though. The buck has to stop somewhere.) Below is my to-do list for today. Let’s see how much of this I can actually get accomplished. [Read more...]
Consumer marketing in the wedding industry is genius. Companies in every area of the biz — from fashion and beauty to food and beverage to travel — find ways to manipulate couples into thinking they need certain items in order to have a beautiful wedding. We’re led to believe that the “perfect wedding” will led to the “perfect marriage”. The truth is neither exists. This might seem odd to read on a bridal blog but then again Triple B isn’t your average bridal blog. With the popularity of Pinterest, Instagram, wedding reality television shows, etc. it is easy to lose track of your original vision before saying I Do. Admittedly, I fell victim to a few of the traps (Hey, I’m human!) but thankfully Mr. TK and I have managed to stay truthful to who we are while planning our nuptials. Here’s a fun cheat sheet with examples of what we did that might help you while planning your big day: [Read more...]