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Marriage Matters Monday – Who are Your Marriage Role Models?

Clair and Heathcliff Huxtable of "The Cosby Show" shared a fictional marriage admired by many in the 1980s.

Last week I had the unique opportunity to chat about marriage, parenthood and lots of stuff in between with my mom, my fiance and his mom. The four of us happen to engage in this very impromptu (but life-changing) convo with a 78 year-old widow and her single forty-something daughter. The entire conversation was enlightening but below are my highlights from the encounter. I was blessed by them and I think you will be, too. As I’ve mentioned before — although I’m planning a wedding, I’m much more concerned about my marriage. For the record, I had heard many of these things before but hearing them come from complete strangers was confirmation in a sense. Here goes: [Read more...]

Tie the Knot Tuesday – Men’s Special

Chris Paul and his wife Jada: It was imperative for Chris to pay homage to his deceased grandfather on his wedding day.

Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock, you’re aware of the Trayvon Martin tragedy. I’ll spare you my feelings on the case (I doubt they’re hard to figure out) however what Martin’s murder reminded me of is how much some lives are undervalued in the U.S. Now you’re wondering where I’m going with this and what the heck it has to do with weddings. Well, in addition to showcasing two people joining their lives as one, Tie the Knot Tuesday regularly spotlights real families — men, women and even children loving and supporting each other. I think we all can use a reminder of the ways Black men, whether they are grooms, fathers of the bride, brothers of the bride, uncles or family friends, hold it down for their families. Are these men without issues? Nope; absolutely not. I’m just doing my part to level the playing field a bit. This is for all the Trayvons of the world. Take a few moments to digest all of this and then recognize how many men like these you have in your own life; even if the world rarely does.
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