We’re borrowing from our pals over at The Lover’s Rocque (Remember their fun Tie the Knot Tuesday wedding?) for today’s Marriage Matters. The messaging that brides-to-be are bombarded with is plan, plan and plan some more for a beautiful, memorable wedding however there is very little information for engaged women (or men) on achieving and maintaining a beautiful and memorable marriage. [Read more…]
“Even if you make plans you never think you’re really ready for marriage. Like any growth you can’t be (completely) ready for it because it’s going to be new.”
– Jerry Seinfeld
View the video below and share your thoughts (particularly about the exchange between Wale and Jerry in the beginning)! The conversations surrounding marriage from a man’s perspective are usually enlightening if for no other reason because we rarely hear them. Share your feedback — good, bad or indifferent — and let’s get a discussion going in the comments, y’all. [Read more…]
Please enjoy the below essay from a new contributor to BlackBridalBliss.com — Verdel A. Jones. Verdel is an educator in Long Island, New York and has been married to her husband Jeremiah (pictured above) for 26 years and counting. Be sure to show her some Triple B love in the comments after reading! [Read more…]
Bridal blogs tend to dish out warm and fuzzy wedding and newlywed advice as though everyone saying “I Do” has never been married and/or doesn’t already have children (whether together or from a previous relationship). Admittedly, even Triple B was guilty of this. Yet when many of us get engaged, we’re already mothers and/or are preparing to wed someone who is a parent. As expected this can get messy — whether the children involved are toddlers, teens or any age in between. We typically witness the messiest of these situations glorified in media — you know, the evil stepmother and the bitter “baby mama” but the below excerpt of a letter written by a mother and ex-wife to her daughter’s new stepmom proves it doesn’t have to be. [Read more…]
Congratulations! Your beloved popped the question or maybe you popped the question — hey, it is 2015 — and now you’re ready to begin planning your wedding…right? Not so fast. Before you prepare an engagement announcement for your local newspaper, before you begin creating a Pinterest board of your favorite wedding gowns, before you go crazy posting a gazillion pics of your engagement ring bling on Facebook and Instagram, Triple B highly suggests you do one thing. [Read more…]
My cousin and Triple B supporter Nik recently forwarded an article to me from Huffington Post. I was so enlightened by it that I had to share. Since we’re in the midst of engagement season, I felt it was especially poignant. Get ready to soak up some wisdom! [Read more…]
I found the above message on Instagram a couple weeks back and thought it was profound. So much so that I needed to share. It is easy (too easy) to get caught up in the rings, the gown, the flowers, the reception music, and the 18,000 other things that even the most focused engaged couple can forget the true point of it all.
Read. Digest. Comment. (Even if you disagree.)
I recently read an article over on Black & Married with Kids written by Franchesca Warren titled, Can a Single Woman Do Too Much Before Marriage?. The piece was penned two years ago but the topics it addresses are still very relevant today. Warren explained that she became a homeowner at 23 — among having various other admirable accomplishments — and was happy to have married a man who viewed her ambition as a good thing. Yet, she points out how others maintain mantras like, “A woman should wait to purchase “big” things (dream car, house, etc.) until she’s married. If they don’t wait, then it’s intimidating to a potential mate.” [Read more…]
We all remember BET’s hit reality show The Family Crews. Terry and Rebecca Crews welcomed us in their L.A. home, making us all feel like family. But what happened when the cameras stopped rolling? Triple B chatted with Mrs. Rebecca Crews about getting and staying married. Rebecca, who is refreshingly down to Earth, is clear that her husband did not become the man that he is overnight but in practicing commitment, compassion, and communication they held on. Terry and Rebecca are the proud parents of five children and celebrated 25 years of marriage on July 29, 2014. This is their story… [Read more…]
“Man can plan but God can hinder.”
Growing up, I listened to my North Carolina-born mom and grandmother recite the above sentence countless times and it typically left me perplexed. Now as a married, 30-something year-old woman I get it. In fact, my new marriage and now postponed honeymoon are prime examples of this saying.
Before I get into the who, what and why of my honeymoon being postponed, let me explain a few things: I work in an industry where frontin’ is embraced. I thought long and hard about whether or not I wanted to post this because I was nervous about oversharing and exposing too much of me and the hubby’s business to the world wide web. But upon careful consideration, I concluded (after running it by him) that I should because if I experienced it, someone else probably has, too. So here goes… [Read more…]
Life throws us — every single one of us — curve balls and is filled with unpredictable ups and downs. No matter how much we plan and prepare, there are going to be situations that knock us on our a**. When there is someone who can help us navigate those twists and turns, hug us tight and say with sincerity, “Babe, we’re going to be okay. I got you.” — it makes the valleys in our journey a little less challenging and the peaks that much sweeter.
Love can get messy, marriage can get complicated but when there’s someone by your side who wants to figure it all out together it can also be bliss.
Last week on April 4, 2014, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Kandi Burruss wed her honey Todd Tucker in what appeared to be a fun-filled affair in Atlanta. Kandi happily Tweeted, “This is one of the best days of my life! I never imagined that I would marry my best friend. Todd’s been that to me. And to have just had the wedding of my dreams, it’s all been so beautiful. Now it’s time to party!” Triple B is very happy for the couple and wishes them a happy and healthy marriage.
“My entire home is constructed and decorated exactly the way I want it to be!” said no one ever. The truth is whether you’re a penny pitching newlywed or a seasoned hitched guy or gal with change to spare, there will always be a home improvement project or a desired piece of furniture on your wish list. It took me a minute to grasp this but now I do and I think Mr. TK does, too. Still, combining my 30+ years of life with his is daunting at times. [Read more…]
Over the weekend, I ran across a good read in the form of a Q&A interview over on ESSENCE.com. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah Jackson chatted with Hollywood power couple Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil (Mara is the mastermind behind hit television shows Girlfriends and Being Mary Jane while Salim is the director of The Game.) about how the married couple makes their love work. As with any relationship “advice” or commentary, it is important for all of us to our discernment. I truly feel every relationship has it’s own DNA yet there is something validating about seeing and hearing from people that look like you in [seemingly] healthy and happy marriages. Check out this interview snippet and then leave a comment with your thoughts. [Read more…]
I have no desire to be a relationship expert of any kind. The only relationship I want to be an expert on is my own. (Kudos to those true professionals who have studied their butts off to help the rest of us navigate our love lives.) However this is on my heart and mind so I wanted to share. I’ve only been married a few months but one thing I’ve already learned is it requires way too much time and energy to worry what others think of your union. In the words of this quite profound toddler, after you say “I Do”, it is even more important to worry about yourself. [Read more…]
My intention today was to share the below video Marriage Is… by The Social Series that was brought to my attention by Triple B friends Black & Married with Kids. The Social Series also produced this moving video on fatherhood so I was anxious to see their latest work. Marriage Is… doesn’t disappoint. Don’t believe me, just watch:
Recently my fiance and I spent the weekend out of town and had the opportunity to catch up with old friends. Ironically, our time was split almost in half between married friends and single amigos. We had a great time from beginning to end. I’d like to think Mr. TK and I are pretty discerning when it comes to our friendships and we greatly value all of them — those who have already said “I Do” or not. However, some people claim we should begin thinking otherwise. [Read more…]
As promised, today kicks off a week-long celebration of BlackBridalBliss.com’s 3rd anniversary! Starting things off are Noemi and Smile; a lovely addition to Marriage Matters. Keep reading for their unique points of view on having children as newlyweds, in-laws and overcoming the fear of saying “I do”.
Couple: Noemi & Smile
Wedding Date: August 8, 2008
Wedding Location: Steiner Studios Abigail Kirsch, Brooklyn, NY
Children: Jolie, 4 and Delano, 3 [Read more…]
I recall how much angst one of my girlfriends went through after she got married and didn’t want to change her last name right away. She eventually hyphenated it but she put it off as long as possible. Her husband was not amused. The pair is (seemingly) happily married and even joke about my friend’s name change delay now but my friend experienced much more separation anxiety than she thought she would. I’ve since heard many women share similiar sentiments about the emotional challenges of changing their name after saying “I Do”. Crazy or common? [Read more…]