“My entire home is constructed and decorated exactly the way I want it to be!” said no one ever. The truth is whether you’re a penny pitching newlywed or a seasoned hitched guy or gal with change to spare, there will always be a home improvement project or a desired piece of furniture on your wish list. It took me a minute to grasp this but now I do and I think Mr. TK does, too. Still, combining my 30+ years of life with his is daunting at times. [Read more...]
Over the weekend, I ran across a good read in the form of a Q&A interview over on ESSENCE.com. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah Jackson chatted with Hollywood power couple Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil (Mara is the mastermind behind hit television shows Girlfriends and Being Mary Jane while Salim is the director of The Game.) about how the married couple makes their love work. As with any relationship “advice” or commentary, it is important for all of us to our discernment. I truly feel every relationship has it’s own DNA yet there is something validating about seeing and hearing from people that look like you in [seemingly] healthy and happy marriages. Check out this interview snippet and then leave a comment with your thoughts. [Read more...]
I have no desire to be a relationship expert of any kind. The only relationship I want to be an expert on is my own. (Kudos to those true professionals who have studied their butts off to help the rest of us navigate our love lives.) However this is on my heart and mind so I wanted to share. I’ve only been married a few months but one thing I’ve already learned is it requires way too much time and energy to worry what others think of your union. In the words of this quite profound toddler, after you say “I Do”, it is even more important to worry about yourself. [Read more...]
My intention today was to share the below video Marriage Is… by The Social Series that was brought to my attention by Triple B friends Black & Married with Kids. The Social Series also produced this moving video on fatherhood so I was anxious to see their latest work. Marriage Is… doesn’t disappoint. Don’t believe me, just watch:
Recently my fiance and I spent the weekend out of town and had the opportunity to catch up with old friends. Ironically, our time was split almost in half between married friends and single amigos. We had a great time from beginning to end. I’d like to think Mr. TK and I are pretty discerning when it comes to our friendships and we greatly value all of them — those who have already said “I Do” or not. However, some people claim we should begin thinking otherwise. [Read more...]
As promised, today kicks off a week-long celebration of BlackBridalBliss.com’s 3rd anniversary! Starting things off are Noemi and Smile; a lovely addition to Marriage Matters. Keep reading for their unique points of view on having children as newlyweds, in-laws and overcoming the fear of saying “I do”.
Couple: Noemi & Smile
Wedding Date: August 8, 2008
Wedding Location: Steiner Studios Abigail Kirsch, Brooklyn, NY
Children: Jolie, 4 and Delano, 3 [Read more...]
I recall how much angst one of my girlfriends went through after she got married and didn’t want to change her last name right away. She eventually hyphenated it but she put it off as long as possible. Her husband was not amused. The pair is (seemingly) happily married and even joke about my friend’s name change delay now but my friend experienced much more separation anxiety than she thought she would. I’ve since heard many women share similiar sentiments about the emotional challenges of changing their name after saying “I Do”. Crazy or common? [Read more...]
Please enjoy this informative piece by Philadelphia-based writer and mental health therapist Essence Cohen. I personally learned a lot from this article and I’m sure you will, too. Be sure to show Essence some Triple B love in the comments!
There are so many exciting activities surrounding your wedding day that you can lose focus of the importance of building the foundation for your actual marriage. The new experiences and unchartered waters you and your future spouse will explore will enhance your relationship but also test your commitment. Being prepared for these moments are actually more important than cake tasting, gown shopping and the bachelorette party. A pre-marital therapist or counselor is an excellent investment for you and your fiancé to help you both iron out the kinks that you are bound encounter when you make a vow to be with one another “for better or for worse”. Outlined below are five efficient ways and reasons to seek pre-marital counseling before your wedding day! [Read more...]
As mentioned on Triple B in the past, some images are so strong they require no words to describe them. The above pic was snapped just moments after Beyonce shut down (literally) the 2013 Superbowl with her electrifying halftime show. After her unforgettable performance, Beyonce’s hubby Jay-Z was waiting for her backstage and the two shared this heartwarming embrace. This picture is especially touching since the duo rarely exhibit PDA. As if this weren’t adorable enough, Jay — who despite having over two million followers hardly ever tweets — jokingly tweeted: “Lights out! Any questions?” of course referencing the power surge in the New Orleans Superdome after his wife’s performance. [Read more...]
The folks over at Ebony magazine are giving us not one, not two but three fabulous covers for the month of February! The theme of the issue is “Celebrate Black Love” — something we enjoy doing here at Triple B. And when we can get honest advice from seemingly happy married couples about life after “I Do”, that’s always a plus. [Read more...]