Marriage Matters – Thinking Inside the Box


I found the above message on Instagram a couple weeks back and thought it was profound. So much so that I needed to share. It is easy (too easy) to get caught up in the rings, the gown, the flowers, the reception music, and the 18,000 other things that even the most focused engaged couple can forget the true point of it all.

Read. Digest. Comment. (Even if you disagree.)

Marriage Matters Monday – Do Successful Women Scare Away Potential Husbands?

Is there a such thing as "doing too much" before marriage?

I recently read an article over on Black & Married with Kids written by Franchesca Warren titled, Can a Single Woman Do Too Much Before Marriage?. The piece was penned two years ago but the topics it addresses are still very relevant today. Warren explained that she became a homeowner at 23 — among having various other admirable accomplishments — and was happy to have married a man who viewed her ambition as a good thing. Yet, she points out how others maintain mantras like, “A woman should wait to purchase “big” things (dream car, house, etc.) until she’s married. If they don’t wait, then it’s intimidating to a potential mate.” [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday – The Family Crews Exclusive Interview

Pucker Up! - Rebecca + Terry Crews at the 20th Wedding Vow Renewal

We all remember BET’s hit reality show The Family Crews. Terry and Rebecca Crews welcomed us in their L.A. home, making us all feel like family. But what happened when the cameras stopped rolling? Triple B chatted with Mrs. Rebecca Crews about getting and staying married. Rebecca, who is refreshingly down to Earth, is clear that her husband did not become the man that he is overnight but in practicing commitment, compassion, and communication they held on. Terry and Rebecca are the proud parents of five children and celebrated 25 years of marriage on July 29, 2014. This is their story… [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday – The Italian Honeymoon That Never Happened

Mr. TK & I chillaxin' in Aruba three months after getting engaged

“Man can plan but God can hinder.”

Growing up, I listened to my North Carolina-born mom and grandmother recite the above sentence countless times and it typically left me perplexed. Now as a married, 30-something year-old woman I get it. In fact, my new marriage and now postponed honeymoon are prime examples of this saying.

Before I get into the who, what and why of my honeymoon being postponed, let me explain a few things: I work in an industry where frontin’ is embraced. I thought long and hard about whether or not I wanted to post this because I was nervous about oversharing and exposing too much of me and the hubby’s business to the world wide web. But upon careful consideration, I concluded (after running it by him) that I should because if I experienced it, someone else probably has, too. So here goes… [Read more...]

Marriage Matters – I’m a Force When We’re Together


Life throws us — every single one of us — curve balls and is filled with unpredictable ups and downs. No matter how much we plan and prepare, there are going to be situations that knock us on our a**. When there is someone who can help us navigate those twists and turns, hug us tight and say with sincerity, “Babe, we’re going to be okay. I got you.” — it makes the valleys in our journey a little less challenging and the peaks that much sweeter.

Love can get messy, marriage can get complicated but when there’s someone by your side who wants to figure it all out together it can also be bliss.

Marriage Matters Monday – How to Manage In-Laws as Newlyweds

Caught in the Middle: Newlywed Kandi spent much of her engagement caught between her mother and her beau, Todd.

Last week on April 4, 2014, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Kandi Burruss wed her honey Todd Tucker in what appeared to be a fun-filled affair in Atlanta. Kandi happily Tweeted, “This is one of the best days of my life! I never imagined that I would marry my best friend. Todd’s been that to me. And to have just had the wedding of my dreams, it’s all been so beautiful. Now it’s time to party!” Triple B is very happy for the couple and wishes them a happy and healthy marriage.

Those of you who even remotely follow the RHOA know that Kandi’s mother Joyce has not been a fan of Todd or her daughter’s relationship with him. At all! [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday: Combining Home Decor Styles Post “I Do”


“My entire home is constructed and decorated exactly the way I want it to be!”
said no one ever. The truth is whether you’re a penny pitching newlywed or a seasoned hitched guy or gal with change to spare, there will always be a home improvement project or a desired piece of furniture on your wish list. It took me a minute to grasp this but now I do and I think Mr. TK does, too. Still, combining my 30+ years of life with his is daunting at times. [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday: Mara Brock & Salim Akil

Dynamic Husband Wife Duo Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil

Over the weekend, I ran across a good read in the form of a Q&A interview over on ESSENCE.com. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah Jackson chatted with Hollywood power couple Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil (Mara is the mastermind behind hit television shows Girlfriends and Being Mary Jane while Salim is the director of The Game.) about how the married couple makes their love work. As with any relationship “advice” or commentary, it is important for all of us to our discernment. I truly feel every relationship has it’s own DNA yet there is something validating about seeing and hearing from people that look like you in [seemingly] healthy and happy marriages. Check out this interview snippet and then leave a comment with your thoughts. [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday – Worry About Yourself

Don't Worry, Be Happy: Me & Mr. TK last summer on Fire Island

I have no desire to be a relationship expert of any kind. The only relationship I want to be an expert on is my own. (Kudos to those true professionals who have studied their butts off to help the rest of us navigate our love lives.) However this is on my heart and mind so I wanted to share. I’ve only been married a few months but one thing I’ve already learned is it requires way too much time and energy to worry what others think of your union. In the words of this quite profound toddler, after you say “I Do”, it is even more important to worry about yourself. [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday – Negative Folks Go Thatta Way!

My intention today was to share the below video Marriage Is… by The Social Series that was brought to my attention by Triple B friends Black & Married with Kids. The Social Series also produced this moving video on fatherhood so I was anxious to see their latest work. Marriage Is… doesn’t disappoint. Don’t believe me, just watch:

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