Marriage Matters Monday – The Italian Honeymoon That Never Happened

Mr. TK & I chillaxin' in Aruba three months after getting engaged

“Man can plan but God can hinder.”

Growing up, I listened to my North Carolina-born mom and grandmother recite the above sentence countless times and it typically left me perplexed. Now as a married, 30-something year-old woman I get it. In fact, my new marriage and now postponed honeymoon are prime examples of this saying.

Before I get into the who, what and why of my honeymoon being postponed, let me explain a few things: I work in an industry where frontin’ is embraced. I thought long and hard about whether or not I wanted to post this because I was nervous about oversharing and exposing too much of me and the hubby’s business to the world wide web. But upon careful consideration, I concluded (after running it by him) that I should because if I experienced it, someone else probably has, too. So here goes… [Read more...]

Marriage Matters – I’m a Force When We’re Together


Life throws us — every single one of us — curve balls and is filled with unpredictable ups and downs. No matter how much we plan and prepare, there are going to be situations that knock us on our a**. When there is someone who can help us navigate those twists and turns, hug us tight and say with sincerity, “Babe, we’re going to be okay. I got you.” — it makes the valleys in our journey a little less challenging and the peaks that much sweeter.

Love can get messy, marriage can get complicated but when there’s someone by your side who wants to figure it all out together it can also be bliss.

Marriage Matters Monday – Committed to the Commitment

The Revs Floyd & Elaine Flake Share Their Marriage Wisdom

The below video is over a year old but the content still resonates and educates. I have known the interview subjects, Rev. Dr. Floyd Flake and Rev. Dr. Elaine Flake of the Allen A.M.E. Cathedral in Queens, NY since childhood. I attended the Allen Christian School which they founded for eight years and believe I am a better woman because of it. Their efforts to improve the community I grew up in are invaluable to me so I’m probably biased. I’ve witnessed their marriage and ministry go through the type of challenges that would lead many couples to divorce court. [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday – How to Manage In-Laws as Newlyweds

Caught in the Middle: Newlywed Kandi spent much of her engagement caught between her mother and her beau, Todd.

Last week on April 4, 2014, Real Housewives of Atlanta star Kandi Burruss wed her honey Todd Tucker in what appeared to be a fun-filled affair in Atlanta. Kandi happily Tweeted, “This is one of the best days of my life! I never imagined that I would marry my best friend. Todd’s been that to me. And to have just had the wedding of my dreams, it’s all been so beautiful. Now it’s time to party!” Triple B is very happy for the couple and wishes them a happy and healthy marriage.

Those of you who even remotely follow the RHOA know that Kandi’s mother Joyce has not been a fan of Todd or her daughter’s relationship with him. At all! [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday – 5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Tying the Knot


Your honey popped the question so you’re ready to start planning your wedding. Sure you understand the marriage is bigger than the wedding — Duh!  You love your future spouse and have no doubts that he (or she) is who you want to say “I Do” to during that ceremony you have already begun meticulously planning.

After the bridal dust has settled and the honeymoon is (literally) over, the marriage begins. Even couples who live together before jumping the broom are likely to experience “growing pains” after their nuptials. Asking yourself the below questions then discussing your honest answers to those questions with your partner while still engaged is wise and will help you gain a better sense of self. [Read more...]

Bridgette’s Pick of the Week – My First 100 Days of Marriage


Ever notice how the first 100 days a president is in office is a really big deal? Or perhaps we’ve just made it a really big deal… Well, I’ve compiled a list of ten things I’ve learned since I’ve been hitched. It has been more than 100 days but y’all get the gist. In addition to being therapeutic to compile, I hope this list is helpful to someone else the way Tie the Knot Tuesday alum Rashida’s letter was to me before I said “I Do”. [Read more...]

Marriage Matters Monday: Mara Brock & Salim Akil

Dynamic Husband Wife Duo Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil

Over the weekend, I ran across a good read in the form of a Q&A interview over on ESSENCE.com. ESSENCE Relationships Editor Charreah Jackson chatted with Hollywood power couple Mara Brock Akil and Salim Akil (Mara is the mastermind behind hit television shows Girlfriends and Being Mary Jane while Salim is the director of The Game.) about how the married couple makes their love work. As with any relationship “advice” or commentary, it is important for all of us to our discernment. I truly feel every relationship has it’s own DNA yet there is something validating about seeing and hearing from people that look like you in [seemingly] healthy and happy marriages. Check out this interview snippet and then leave a comment with your thoughts. [Read more...]

Marriage Matters – Good Reading!

The Huxtables made marriage look easy, right?!

A former Tie the Knot Tuesday groom turned good friend shared these two stories with me recently regarding marriage. Whether or not you agree with all of the information in them is irrelevant. But, ensuring that Triple B shares content beyond the flowers, tulle and pretty pictures of traditional weddings is extremely important. Let’s remember folks, the wedding is only the beginning of the marriage… And every couple’s vows will get tested. Yes, even yours.
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Marriage Matters – From the Mouths of Babes

Me on my wedding day flanked by my rock-star nieces, Briana (left) and Benaya (right)!

I’m officially back from my minimoon and the bridal dust is beginning to settle. There are certainly still tasks to complete — thank you cards, anyone? — but Mr. TK and I have had an opportunity to look back on our weddings (Yes, there were two!) and reflect. We’ve basically come to this conclusion: We worked dang hard together to pull off The Royall Union and we’re proud of our teamwork, we have so much more hard work to put in as we build for our future, we really dig each other (LOL!) and we’re blessed beyond measure. Although the road ahead of us seems daunting at times, we’re looking forward to getting familiar with the unfamiliar together. Which leads me to what are possibly my favorite wedding gifts of all. These gifts are from my 10 and 12 year-old nieces who I’m pictured with above.

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Marriage Matters Monday – Negative Folks Go Thatta Way!

My intention today was to share the below video Marriage Is… by The Social Series that was brought to my attention by Triple B friends Black & Married with Kids. The Social Series also produced this moving video on fatherhood so I was anxious to see their latest work. Marriage Is… doesn’t disappoint. Don’t believe me, just watch:

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