I have a confession: Since I’ve been engaged, the news of couples getting divorced gives me a case of the heebeegeebees. It saddened me before but now it actually more than saddens me; it scares me a little too. I realize this might seem self-absorbed but I’m being honest here. The most recent news of this kind was that of Tom Joyner and Donna Richardson. They were a seemingly “real” couple and had been married for 12 years. To give you context, the news of Evelyn and Chad splitting didn’t sadden me. I know, I know… I shouldn’t let what others do (or not do) influence me. And trust me, I’ve never been more confident that I want to marry my fiance than I am now. However, I cannot deny that stories like those of Tom and Donna calling it quits make me ponder. I ask myself, Did they really try to make it work? Did they truly give it their all? What was the final straw that made them throw in the towel and walk away from their vows? [Read more...]
The couple has known each other through two sets of friends since 2000 but didn’t come together until a mutual friend re-connected them at a party in December 2008. They immediately started dating one week after the party and became inseparable. They realized they wanted the same things in life: marriage, children and ultimate happiness in a healthy partnership (marriage).
In March 2009 their love was tested when Kimberly went to the emergency room to check out a boil on her skin and the hospital failed to give me the correct medication/treatment. She was forced to have open heart surgery at 30 years old. She did most of her recovery at her mother’s apartment in the Bronx, New York. Damon maintained her apartment in Harlem, New York by doing laundry, cleaning and overseeing the upkeep. The couple made wedding plans to get married in August of the same year.
Kmberly bought her wedding dress — an off-white cocktail dress — off the rack a block away from the Court House (where they were married). Damon opted for a chambray pinstripe suit and off-white leather sneakers from discount retailer Daffy’s. Kimberly’s mother organized a family and friend reception at a family member’s home in Mount Vernon, New York for nearly 75 people.
Soon the newlyweds learned they were expecting! But Kimberly faced yet another surgery during her pregnancy for ovarian torison. Thankfully, the couple’s beloved son, Mandela Iyanu Marshall, was born the following year on May 11, 2010.
As mentioned before, sometimes Triple B covers brides that don’t identify as “Black” simply because it makes sense to for the audience — you. This past weekend, newlyweds Chad “Ocho Cinco” Johnson and his bride Evelyn Lozada got into some mess that…well, it is just m-e-s-s-y! He was arrested for allegedly headbutting her but later reports were released that she actually headbutted him. Then on Sunday, Johnson was dropped from the Miami Dolphins — a position he just landed and apparently was holding onto with a thread anyway. To make matters worse (as if that is possible) insiders claim this entire altercation stemmed from Evelyn finding a receipt for condoms. Oy vey! [Read more...]
CYNICS BEWARE: The story of Lena Henderson and Roland Davis will warm your heart. Why? Well, the 85-year old couple just remarried on Saturday, August 4th after being divorced for nearly five decades — 48 years to be exact. I first read about this pair over on Black and Married with Kids. [Read more...]
What would you do if you learned your beloved father unexpectedly collapsed in his sister’s bathroom? What would you do if he spent a week in coma three weeks before your scheduled nuptials? Beatrice Dorcena, a patient services manager from Pennsylvania recently experienced all of the above. Just three weeks before her scheduled Memorial Day 2012 wedding, not only did she learn her father collapsed, but after a week of praying for his recovery, was forced to accept she’d have to bury him after he went brain dead.
She went from finalizing details on her wedding, to buying funeral clothes and writing a eulogy. However, with the unwavering strength of her mother, Beatrice found the resolve to continue and marry her fiancé, Michel. In an intimate conversation with Assistant Editorial Contributor, Laura, Beatrice reveals what it takes to accept the death of a loved one while wedding planning, how not to get labeled selfish and where brides can find the strength to carry on with one of the most important milestones in life. Check out the conversation below: [Read more...]
What a treat I have for you guys today! When I discovered that Tie the Knot Tuesday alum Rasheeda enjoys writing and realized that her one-year wedding anniversary was approaching, I asked the Georgia Peach to pen a piece about her first 365 days of wifedom for Triple B. Rasheeda in turn submitted a beautiful, honest and eye-opening letter to her engaged self. There are so many jewels in this letter, y’all. Enjoy!
Happy Monday! If you frequent BlackBridalBliss.com chances are you’re already over the doom and gloom conversations regarding Black marriage. So, how about checking out a panel discussion that does just the opposite with authors, bloggers and journalists that want to celebrate and enlighten you on Black marriages for a change? If you’re able to make it to Harlem USA this evening, head to Hue-Man Bookstore for a lively conversation led by my homie and relationships editor at ESSENCE magazine Charreah Jackson, veteran writer Miles Marshall Lewis, author Sedequa Johnson, newlywed blogging duo and Triple B alums Starr and Anslem aka The Lover’s Rocque (remember their awesome engagement pics?) and more. Enjoy!
We’re switching things up a little on Triple B today. Instead of the traditional Tie the Knot Tuesday feature, we’re showcasing a sexy Trash the Dress photo session. Now you have another option of something fun to do with your gown after saying “I Do”. Tie the Knot Tuesday alum Rasheeda (and one of my fave featured brides) submitted these pics on behalf of her sister. Sweet, right? Enjoy!
Couple: Nioyona (Shears) and Anthony Plummer
Homebase: Atlanta, GA
Wedding Date: May 14, 2010
Unfortunately our resident bride-to-be Jene is sick and was unable to write her post this week. Feel better, Jene! Hopefully she’ll be back next week, rested up and ready to take us further along on her wedding planning journey.
In the meantime, please check out the below video trailer that Lamar over at Black and Married with Kids shared with me. It features the soulful R&B duo Kindred discussing the apex of marriage. Very enlightening; especially because I was one of those people who used to think that getting married was the relationship finish line so to speak — hey, I’m being honest. How refreshing is it to see modern Black married couples openly speak on the highs and lows of marriage in a way that isn’t pompous or judgmental?
The complete video is on sale beginning May 1st and promises to include a diverse group of couples to provide transparent and insightful conversation about what it takes to have lasting power in current day marriages. Through infidelity, chronic illness, financial crisis and more these couples explain why and how they are still standing.