Cousin Mars explains why the "BEST MAN TOAST" is kind of a big deal.

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Thus far in my life, I’ve had the opportunity to give only one Best Man speech. The speech was for a friend I have known all but four years of my life. It was an honor that I didn’t take lightly. Although I valued the occasion, it was my belief that I would be able to freestyle this highly anticipated wedding reception moment. There wasn’t much that I didn’t know about the newly married man. Why would I need to script such a personal moment? Well, I can honestly say considering all things – that it may have been my least favorite toast.

Prior to and since then I have been to freestyle speeches what Kendrick Lamar has recently been to Hip Hop. I was and have been what LeBron has recently been to the NBA. I was the Mike Phelps of on the fly speeches. But due to the emotion surrounding the aforementioned toast and all that I wanted to include, I can admit that it was sub par – at least per my standards. I’ll now confess that the next opportunity to share such sentimental feelings will be seized. From the first time I watched the movie The Wood I remember finding the toast given by Omar Epps (Mike) to be my favorite scene. CORRECTION – my favorite scene only behind any scene including Sanaa Lathan. Whew…I almost made a boo boo.

At the risk of being over dramatic, I want to say the traditional Best Man toast is a unique moment. Think about it. It is one of the few instances that allow a man – regardless of age, race or muscular build – to be tough, super sensitive, and emotional in front of a crowd comprised of complete strangers, close friends, and friends of friends. And guess what…All of this usually occurs within 2-3 minutes. As a person with a few extremely close friends, I am highly anticipating any toast given on the day I walk the plank (just kidding). I am already expecting several embarrassing stories to be told. As payback for being a lifelong prankster, I am also certain to have a couple of memories that I wish I could forget.

By this point in the post you should have recognized it is different from past Final Fridays with Cousin Mars. I hope to share a few little known facts. Ladies – please know that the male members of the Bridal Party aren’t allowed to just skate through the wedding planning process free of stress. The individual(s) bestowed with the privilege of sharing a touching moment on the big stage probably has as much anxiety as the groom-to-be in the days leading to the BIG ONE. It is also worth mentioning that it is no longer safe to assume the traditional Best Man speech will be given by a man. Many women are accepting the honor of standing beside their Y chromosome buddies.

What memories do you have of past Best Man toasts? What were your thoughts of the speech given in the video clip? I hope I didn’t put any added pressure on anyone preparing to give a speech/toasts in the upcoming months.