Being an only child, I’d never not gotten what I wanted. And being an attorney, I’d become very good at negotiating. So when my fiancé and I sat down to discuss our wedding and, most importantly, our wedding budget, I had very few worries. My vision was full of lavishness while his involved us going to the courthouse. In the end, we settled on a number that would allow me the wedding of my dreams, albeit with a much smaller guest list. His reasoning for not wanting to go overboard with the spending made absolute sense, and while I understood his point, admittedly I looked at the budget number as a suggestion — kind of the same way I look at speeding limits. [Read more…]
Nearlyweds if you’re in the midst of wedding planning, chances are you are neck-deep in scheduling lots of tastings, venue walk-throughs and dozens of other vendor appointments. Juggling it all along with your already hectic life (because I don’t know many Black women who aren’t pulled into a multitude of directions) can begin to seem more like work than play. But I strongly urge you not to stay in that place and here’s why. [Read more…]
I apologize for the gaps in posts recently. Although I’m no longer wedding planning, merging my 30+ years of life with Mr. TK’s is time-consuming. Wedding planning is light stuff compared to some of the decisions we’re currently making. But, you are likely coming to this site because you’re still in the thick of planning your own nuptials. Don’t worry, I’m not going to abandon you. In fact, I am eager to share even more of my knowledge now that I’ve said “I Do.” Below are ten ways you can trim your wedding catering expenses. Remember, food and beverage costs will eat up most of your budget so this is valuable information. Bookmark this page, forward this link to others, print this post out and stick it on your fridge — you’re welcome! [Read more…]
I have interviewed over 100 brides and dozens of wedding planners and other bridal industry experts in my career. I’ve been tapped by media outlets like ESSENCE, The Huffington Post and UPTOWN for my bridal expertise. I have enough bridal magazines and wedding books in my home to drive Mr. TK nuts. (I’m working on the pack rat tendencies, babe!) Still, none of this made me totally prepared for the emotional roller coaster I rode for my own wedding. Here are the top five things I learned while taking that ride and how you can attempt to buckle up for them, too: [Read more…]
Well folks, the deed was done. On Saturday, October 19, 2013, I jumped the broom with my best friend in front of roughly 115 loved ones. (We actually wed a month prior in a much smaller ceremony — I promise to elaborate more on that later.) In a word, last weekend was bliss.
Mr. TK and I are still sleepwalking and aren’t scheduled to return to our normal (whatever that means) schedules until next week. Still, I wanted to give you all a glimpse into our nuptials to hold you over until the official Tie the Knot Tuesday feature next month. Below is hand’s down one of my favorite moments from the big day: [Read more…]
The great news: I made it to Charlotte! Hello, Bojangles and hearing folks say “reckon” regularly. I’m about as Southern as a New York gal can be so it isn’t too much of a surprise to most of my friends that I wanted to jump the broom in North Carolina. Time is flying by. Here’s what I have on the itinerary for today:
Last night I received unfortunate news regarding a loved one. The news wasn’t life-threatening and might help said person in the long run but I spent a good portion of my evening consumed with it instead of finishing this list. I still don’t have escort cards, I didn’t go to snapfish.com to get signs printed and I missed the Martha Stewart Weddings Fiesta. On a brighter side, I got my nails and eyelashes done yesterday — WOO HOO. Check this Instagram nail video for a fun play by play. Here’s what I’m hoping to accomplish today: [Read more…]
Today’s gonna be a doozy! I’ve been up since 5ish this morning sending emails and making lists. There’s still more lists to write, too. (Mr. TK thinks I make too many lists but my mother has warned him I inherited that from my dad. “She got it honest,” she told him. They now have lots of conversations about me in front of me; they’re too funny.) Here’s what is on my list for today: [Read more…]
Yesterday was productive. While I didn’t complete all the tasks on my to-do list, I finished most of them and even did a few important things that weren’t on the list. (Ahem, my wedding band was finally selected and purchased — WOO HOO!) I realized that not only was my friend Lisa’s advice to post this wedding countdown important for the Triple B audience but it will also hold me accountable. (By the way if you’re ever in NYC and need a mani or pedi, check Lisa out at The Nail Suite by Lisa Logan. Yes that was definitely a shameless plug.) Here’s what I hope to accomplish today and tomorrow: [Read more…]
Since I’m preparing to send out my Save-the-Dates in the coming weeks (WOO HOO!), I thought this post was timely. My fiance and I had some questions about what to do and what not to do so I’m anxious to share my recent findings with you all. As always, Triple B encourages everyone to ultimately do what works best for them and their household. (I’m even tweaking a couple of these for my own Save-the-Dates…) However I thought the below suggestions were pretty universal: [Read more…]
Ever since The Huffington Post published this piece about “unplugged weddings” the bridal industry has been buzzing even more about them. (Truthfully the term is a couple years old.) And since I promised in the comments of this post that I would address the trend here on BBB I decided to make it my Pick of the Week. In short, an unplugged wedding is one that discourages guests from taking pics and moreover frowns upon Tweeting, Facebooking, Intagraming, etc. during the affair. Here are the immediate benefits to unplugged nuptials: [Read more…]
Homebase: New Jersey
Wedding Date: April 14, 2012
Wedding Location: ceremony and reception: Curacao Breezes Resort & Spa, Curacao, West Indies
Every Tuesday in Triple B’s Tie the Knot Tuesday stories, the featured bride offers 2-3 tips on how future brides can save money on their big day. This information is golden. So this week, I rounded up 10 tips that were so fab they deserved an encore. Looking for even more? Revisit these tips and tricks for getting the most bang for your bridal buck. Happy Saving! [Read more…]
Once in a blue, an event takes place in popular culture that just has to get discussed here on Triple B, even if the bride isn’t identified as Black. The latest such event would be the nuptials of tech tycoon Mark Zuckerberg and his college sweetheart of nine years, Priscilla Chan. I’m sure you’re aware that Zuckerberg — a founder of Facebook which officially went public last week — is the youngest billionaire in the world. The Harvard University dropout wed Chan, who just graduated from the University of California at San Francisco’s medical school and has plans to become a pediatrician, in a modest ceremony in the couple’s backyard. Of course the word modest is relative but in comparison to some folks who don’t have nearly as much money as Zuckerberg (ahem Real Housewives of Atlanta), these two kept it low-key and simple.
It is crunch time and thus far I have approached wedding planning as a DIY bride. I am very proud of the accomplishments I have made on my own. Especially since event planning on this scale is not my forte. The bulk of the major decisions have been made. Contracts, deposits and price negotiations are done, but here is where I have hit a wall. I am secure enough to acknowledge where my strengths are lacking, and the little details of décor and implementation for the reception is where I cry UNCLE!
I have decided to enlist the help of a planner. One of my bridesmaids recently had a party celebrating her birthday, and her planner did a fabulous job. I was so impressed in fact, I begged my friend for her contact information. I was beginning to feel a bit overwhelmed at this phase of the planning process and I saw this as God answering my prayers. [Read more…]
In planning my wedding I have come to realize something I wasn’t expecting when I first started: Everyone you know has an opinion, a request or feels a way about something when it comes to your day. Now this is not always a negative. But one thing is for sure; it adds pressure to an already stressful situation. The trap a lot of brides fall into, me included, is wanting to please everyone. Guess what? It’s not possible.
First Triple B let me apologize, technical difficulty caused me not to post last week. I missed you guys and I am happy to be back.
As of today there are 144 days until my wedding. Time is really flying. However even with the looming presence of a ticking clock and days on the calendar flying by, I choose to remind myself the “wedding” isn’t the highlight of September 15, 2012 in my life. As a soon to be bride, blogging on a bridal site I know this statement seems strange. I can explain. [Read more…]