Hola! Tie the Knot Tuesday and Not Quite Tie the Knot Tuesday will return soon, folks. I know, I know — but trust that Triple B is working on some good stuff in the meantime and it includes featuring a bunch of great love stories, weddings, videos and engagement pictures. Today however, we’re switching things up a bit. Although Cousin Mars typically only posts here the last Friday of the month and Marriage Matters posts are usually reserved for Mondays, every now and again it can be good to mix things up. So, I want you guys to respond to the “touchy” statements Cousin Mars presented on Instagram this morning:
A woman marries a man expecting him to change and he doesn’t. A man marries a woman expecting her not to change and she does.
Annnnnd…..GO! Do you think there is any truth to this? Don’t hold back. Be as candid as possible, folks. Your comments just might inspire Mars to delve into this topic further here on Triple B in a few weeks.
[Triple B posts a different “Question of the Day” on Instagram each weekday — be sure you’re following us on IG, in addition to Cousin Mars, so you can stay abreast of all things Black Bridal Bliss.]
I’m 30 days away from getting married and it seems that ppl, mostly males, keep reminding me to please not change after the wedding. I can’t see why I would change after the ring is on my finger. I know that we will mature as a couple and things might arise that we didn’t encounter before but it’s hard to believe that a person could do a complete 360. As for my fiancé, I wouldn’t change a thing about him and pray that if he does it’s for the best.
I don’t think most ppl actually change, although some do. I believe when we are in the “romance stage,” sometimes we turn a blind eye to several not so appealing aspects of our mates personality. Then when “reality” sets in, those traits become glaring. Doing a 360 revolves you back to where you started, good or bad. Often I’ve witnessed the marriage being a finale for individuals to work on their relationship and themselves.
I think expectations change
A good friend and fellow newlywed recently summed up my thoughts on this best: Both men and women change post-marriage. Most of us will change and evolve throughout life. I think we can agree that our interests now vary significantly from those we had 15-20 years ago. However once married, what (hopefully) does not change is the commitment to the union. If that does change, ideally it will only increase.