Did you watch the season premiere of Bridezillas last night? If so, I’m sure you asked, “What the %*#$??!!” at least twice during viewing. (Admit it.) Well, I have a little more guilty pleasure for ya. Triple B caught up with newlywed Erica to find out if she feels the WEtv cameras added extra stress to her wedding planning, if she ever made peace with her sister and what she thinks about the show’s unmarried critics. (I guess that includes me, huh?) BONUS: Erica offers bridal tips for you nearlyweds as well!
Black Bridal Bliss: So you’ve been married a few months and the dust has settled a bit from your wedding planning. Do you have any regrets since watching the show clips?
Erica: Well, I now recognize that I could have done some things differently in terms of the planning. I did wait until the last minute to do some things. But at the end of the day a lot of last minute preparation stems from when people who you think are going to be around to help you aren’t.
BBB: Do you think that the added stress of planning your wedding made you act out of character?
Erica: Its like this: You want everything to be perfect. Your wedding is one day that you put so much time, money and effort into. I don’t think people who aren’t married or who haven’t planned a wedding get that. Once they go through it they’ll see what other brides have to go through. They’re looking at everything from the outside so they don’t see all the stress involved; you want everything to be flawless.
BBB: Did you watch the show before you got engaged?
Erica: Yeah, I used to watch Bridezillas all the time. I used to laugh at it. I was like, ‘They’re crazy!’ But, when you’re put in that situation it is different. You don’t know everything about a person until you’re put in their shoes.
BBB: Did the cameras filming you add an extra layer of angst during your wedding planning?
Erica: Yes, you have cameras and people you don’t know in your face all day during the most stressful time – the week before the wedding. So that can kinda add to it because sometimes you want to be alone and not be bothered. But even if the cameras weren’t there I think some things still would have happened because bridesmaids and friends weren’t pulling their weight, nobody was helping or acting like they cared. It gets aggravating after awhile when no one is answering their phone or around to help. When you were first engaged, everybody wanted to be in the wedding and everyone wanted to lend a hand.
BBB: The argument with your sister Jamika was pretty intense. Have you guys made up?
Erica: My sister and I are very close; that’s my baby. She agreed to help and then when it was time to do the work she said, ‘ Oh I have to study.’ She [eventually] helped and I even helped her study later. Every family fusses – especially siblings – but at the end of the day we’re going to help each other. That love is still there no matter what.
BBB: Erica, please share your words of wisdom on keeping stress to a minimum to all the planning brides here on Triple B.
Erica: Just don’t depend on anyone. There will be some people who will say they’re going to help you and stick to their words. But do what you can by yourself and don’t stress over the rest. It hurts when you feel like the people who are supposed to be there the most aren’t so just keep your expectations low. It is your wedding day not anyone else’s and you don’t want to have any regrets.
What do you think of Erica’s take on her bridezilla behavior: ridiculous or justified?