Choosing a bridal party is a significant step in planning your wedding. Some opt to forego an entourage and keep the focus of the big day on the two coming together as one. As has become par for our course, Mr. DrummerBoy and I went about choosing our wedding day companions in a completely different manner.
From the start of our relationship, I have often marveled at how my family and friends have taken to Mr. DrummerBoy. Completely opposite of me, he is a man of few words and it takes some time for him to get comfortable around new people. It probably doesn’t help that like me, he has a penchant for snark and oftentimes folks don’t know how to take his sarcasm. Surprisingly this was never the case for six women in my life: my sisters (one of whom introduced us), my childhood BFFs and my “little sisters” from college. In addition to being my best friends, they each have their own relationship with my fiancé and are very supportive of us as a couple — both of which are really important to me. So when the time came, it was a no brainer who I wanted by my side as we took our vows. In fact, it was my Matron of Honor whom Mr. DrummerBoy called for assistance when he made the decision to propose.
Since he comes from a big family, it is important to Mr. DrummerBoy that those standing with him on our big day represent that family – his brother, cousins from both sides and his sister. Yep, his sister will join our bridal party as his groomsmaid. Although for many it would have sufficed to just include his sister as a bridesmaid, we agreed that we wanted to celebrate their relationship as authentically as possible…So groomsmaid it is! She will wear a dress to match the guys’ suits and stand by his side but these logistical details are secondary to the joy we both feel at having a bridal party that is representative of what’s important to us.
What do you think of bridesmen and groomsmaids? Would you consider a best woman or man of honor? Which factors are most important when considering who to include in your bridal party?
Check out these two Tie the Knot Tuesday weddings with groomsmaids: Lynda and Alonzo and Breanne and Michael!
[Image courtesy of MarthaStewartWeddings.com.]
WOW!!! Thinking outside the box has been fantastically elevated. I like it. You and your mate will have an exciting life together, I’m sure. Abundant blessings.
I think that is a very cute idea to have a groomsmaid. Awesome idea Sunshine.
That’s innovative…You’ve got to post pics after your Big Day:)
I’m glad this post is resonating with folks. I too appreciate when couples think outside the box.
Good for you! Im happy you can be your authentic selves an not be constrained by tradition needlessly. Über-cool to have a groomsmaid.
I just love the uniqueness authenticity…
I love it! What a wonderful way to include his sister. My very best friend in the world is a man and we have laughed for years at how his future wife better be ready for me to be a “groomswoman.” Lol. My BFF’s little brother got married a few years ago and had a “groomswoman who wore a lovely dress that matched the groomsmen’s suits. It was fantastic! Congrats!
I think its great that you all are doing yall in your wedding….
Yella Boi’s sister my FSIL will be one of my BM
Very cool of yall…
Wow. I have been following your Pinterest page too & we have so many things in common :)
We also have an unconventional wedding party. My first cousin who is like a brother to me and has been there for me through so much is standing as my Brides Man. My fiance’s only sister whom he is extremely close to will be standing as his Grooms Woman. I am so excited for your big day !
Thanks all! We really want the day to reflect us and I’m loving how it is all coming together ;-)
Wonderful idea! Whatever works for you all should definitely be represented on your day!
hi so I am 12 years old and as I am watching u on something borrowed something new, I just think to myself how much you are a big inspiration to me! you are beautiful no matter what you chose! thanks so much for inspiring me today.
Thank you all for the positive feedback on Nae’s post! Trust me, you will be seeing more weddings with groomsmaids going forward…
@Bailie – YOU just inspired me! Please know that I am humbled by your comment. At 12, you have so much to look forward to — know that the possibilities are endless for you; regardless of how things may appear right now.
I love the idea of having a groomsmaid or bridesmen! Weddings should be a reflection of the couple. It warms my heart to know that you and Mr. DrummerBoy are being true to yourselves and throwing tradition to the wind! GO GIRL!!!