Triple B pals Black & Married with Kids recently posted the piece excerpted below and it was only right that the knowledge be shared here, too. Like Tie the Knot Tuesday alum Rasheeda, the writer candidly pens about how his life as a newlywed is filled with challenging learning experiences, valleys and trials. Coincidentally, the writer of the snippet below — Delano Squires — is also a Tie the Knot Tuesday alum. Let his words be food to your soul.

 You need to run the right race

A couple’s wedding day is typically one of the most memorable days they will ever experience, but just because you started off on a high doesn’t mean your relationship has to take a nosedive. The early days of marriage can be a gentle reminder that the process of becoming one takes time. Most of us have developed a series of habits and attitudes during our single days that can make this process a challenge. Too much focus on getting to the day can distract couples from doing the work required to be successful in marriage. A wedding is like a sprint, but marriage is a marathon. That’s why the preparation needed for both is different. Keeping focused on the right race is also important because there’s often a temptation to think that the only thing standing between you and happiness is a different spouse. Don’t be fooled—you’d have issues regardless of who you married. Most of us aren’t even in perfect alignment with ourselves. Each of us can look back on our lives and find times when our words and ways were not totally in sync. It should come as no surprise that we occasionally get out of step with the one we pledged to love for a lifetime. Let those moments serve as a motivation to keep pushing forward and a reminder that while having a great wedding takes a day, creating a great marriage takes a lifetime.

Read the rest of Delano’s Black & Married with Kids post here.

Read more about remembering the marriage when wedding planning here.