Happy New Year, folx. May this year be your best year yet. Now that the pleasantries are out of the way, I’ll get to business. I have a different type of post for you guys today. Cousin Mars is trying to look out for you.
Last fall I was introduced to Groom’s Cakes. For whatever reasons, I had never heard of these things. However, now that I have…Whoa Baby! These cakes can be pretty elaborate. With the right amount of thought, these cakes can be a groom’s confirmation that his soon-to-be wife knows him best; perhaps even better than he knows himself. If we’re being honest, we can admit that most guys feel the wedding day is truly for the bride. Her attire often costs much more than his…and of course the ring does also. She gets to make a grand entrance as he stands in front of a crowd attempting not to look too nervous. In fact, there is a song just for her grand entrance. As guys, we’ve accepted the facts. It is her day. BUT, if you can give him his own special memory…aren’t you all for it?
This is an opportunity for the women to put as much thought and creativity as you may have hoped he put into selecting the perfect ring. It is also an opportunity for you to show off – in a good way. Do you know the points you’ll earn when everyone hears how much bragging he is going to do about the thought that went into selecting a cake that truly speaks to him and his personality? Plenty! Your knowledge of his hobbies, interest, career, and/or childhood memories can help with design ideas. (Bridgette wanted me to mention the groom’s cakes Breanne and Yaasmeen had for their husbands. They are pretty cool.) I’ve also included some pictures of some random cakes I found online that may inspire you or spark a thought of your own.
I even did some research on this topic so you don’t have to — you’re welcome. In the states, the tradition was started in the southeast. Normally the cake is either presented during the rehearsal dinner or (the new phenomenon) during the wedding reception. Whichever you choose, please make sure he gets the first piece. In fact, why not feed him the first slice. You can even get a little sexy with it. Remember, Cousin Mars has your back. If you want to bounce some groom’s cake ideas off of me, email me at [email protected].
C’mon, we’re family.
Feel free to revisit previous Cousin Mars Triple B posts here.
[iPod cake image courtesy of Cake Fiction and Yankee Stadium cake image courtesy of Fairy Dust Cakes.]
I am forwarding this to my girlfriend immediately. She is getting married in May & I don’t know if she is aware of this trend. I’m certain she would love to add this feature to there wedding experience.
Anything that succeeds in making the groom feel just as celebrated as the bride is a good idea. Although traditionally the whole wedding process has been bride focused, I think it’s time to change that. TWO people are making a commitment to each other, why should one party have rank over the other. “Start as you mean to go on,” is a quote that was shared with me years ago. In this case, if a couple wants to enter marriage as equals the wedding should reflect that. Maybe a future post can shed light on that “giving the bride away,” tradition. Is she chattel? Food for thought.
@Erica – That’s what friends are for!
@SpikesDtr – Yes, a wedding is about two consenting adults. Great suggestion on the future post — stay tuned…
I like this idea. I’m going to spread the word. I agree with the comment suggesting sharing the spotlight and happiness.
I’m still in awe at the detail put into these cakes. It truly is edible art.
I’ve been involved with several weddings that included the groom’s cake tradition. Usually, it’s chocolate or red velvet, betraying the Southeastern roots of this fun touch to a wedding. I checked with the brides…those grooms chose their own cakes. Now, I’m sure that this is a thing that can vary from couple to couple but, since the bride had to do a lot of work to make it ‘her day’ and most grooms aren’t that interested/qualified to make a lot of the decisions, why not make this his own little project. I’m used to the personal touch coming in the form of a private gift from the bride to the groom which is delivered to him by a member of the bridal party (obviously not the bride). To each, *his own!
@Sharon – Yes, feel free to forward this post!
@Incog – Hmmm, your unofficial survey results are surprising because typically the groom’s cake theme is only revealed at the rehearsal dinner or wedding day itself. But as you pointed out, to each *his own. As always, thanks for leaving a thoughtful comment.
I do agree that jt’s a nice touch. I would have to steal the Yankee Stadium cake for my beau if we get married. It’s right up his alley!