At the recent Triple B Bride-to-Be Vision Board Workshop, one of the planning brides — who happens to be Nigerian — expressed how torn she is about incorporating Nigerian customs into her wedding. Her fiance, who is also Nigerian, was adamant about them having a traditional large wedding affair complete with 400+ guests. The bride would have been content with small, intimate nuptials but in addition to her fiance wanted to at least meet some of her parent’s requests to follow tradition as well. As you can imagine, feeding 400+ guests can get pretty darn expensive — even for a truly savvy couple.
People from the African Diaspora have lost so much cultural identity so I can understand why it might be especially important to preserve as much legacy as possible and weddings are a ripe time to do so. Even more than 200 guests at a wedding is large to me however, I know better than to judge someone else’s cultural traditions. I can say without hesitation that I don’t think anyone should go into debt for a wedding nor should people get invited to a wedding solely for a monetary gift. Yet from the Nigerian and Eritrean weddings I have attended thus far in my life, I can admit that I learned so much more about those cultures from simply being a guest and the memories are priceless for all in attendance.
What advice or tips do you have for someone who wants to incorporate their family’s traditions into their wedding day while still remaining true to who they are now and stay in or under budget? Share in the comments!
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